Competition Has Two Losers

There is a difference between competing and using what others do to motivate you to better yourself for YOU. I know that may seem confusing at first glance, but go ahead and read it again (I’ll wait)…

 

Okay… I say this because I think competition is good, but not ALL the time. There doesn’t always have to be a loser, when you can always be a WINNER. That sounds nice doesn’t it? Always being a winner? Damn right it sounds amazing, I always want to be a winner.

 

I imagine you asking yourself right now, “But how can I always be a winner? How do you learn anything if you never lose?” Well that’s simple my friend, it’s actually rather easy. You learn when you “lose” per say, correct? Well, you change to fit the demands of a “winner” after you are beaten by said “winner”, right? So, if you never lose, and just constantly use other people to motivate yourself to make changes in your life, rather than competing, you’re never a loser!

 

Here’s a real life example:

 

My best friend, we’ll call him Jon, and I never really compete. We (unspoken) mutually decided that it’s pointless, years and years ago. Instead we watch and inspire each other by what we do in life. We have meaningful life talks all the time and motivate each other with our words and actions to push each other to succeed, and then when they do succeed, we see that everything is possible. It motivates the other one to push harder to be on the same level of greatness. It’s not competition, it’s motivation.

 

So when Jon is doing great things, I know that I can be doing better things with my life (living happier), so I start pushing to live happier too because I know it’s possible. Then when I get there, there are two winners, never a loser. There is never a fear of losing to hold back anything because “The fear of losing means you have already lost”. Why not just motivate and always win, always be happy and healthy mentally? Doesn’t that just sound appeasing compared to being called the loser?

 

Granted if you are in a sport or real life game/competition, you can’t bend the rules to make two winners (i.e. sports, game shows, race to promotions, etc.) because there really can be only one winner.

 

But when it comes to LIFE, the game that we are ALL playing all day everyday, why can’t you rest with your head high at the end of every day knowing you’re a winner? I know I’m a winner, Jon is a winner, and I know you, too, are a winner. With that being said, start living life like a CHAMPION, you deserve it.

“Her” Big Day

One of the big topics that gets me in trouble in relationships is marriage. I don’t see the point of marriage. I believe that if two people are truly in love, there is a “code”; don’t cheat, don’t lie, do nice things, provide for the family, etc. and that “marriage” is only a legal document that says you love each other to the government. It LEGALLY says you love each other and that if you are to ever fall out of love, you are to pay a bunch of money to escape the grasps of that document binding you together, legally. I don’t think you need a piece of paper to say how much you love each other. A couple can be together 75+ years (or whatever) and still be just as happy as a couple that has been legally married the same amount of time.

But that’s not the point of this post.

My problem is the day of said wedding and what the meaning has come down to. With people who are close to me getting ready to wed, all I hear is everyone talking to the bride about it being “HER” day. It’s all about HER. HER day.

IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT HER!!!!!

Okay women of the world, swallow your pride, and buckle up for a roller coaster of emotions and truth because shit is about to get real on my blog. I understand that I am not an “accomplished” blogger yet and I should be making an audience before attacking society, but society needs a reality check.

A wedding day is about the wedding. A wedding is about TWO people being married. Not about a woman looking beautiful in a big dress surrounded by loved ones. She has a man standing up there as well, and ladies, without him up there, THIS WHOLE WEDDING, THIS WHOLE DAMN DAY, WOULD NOT EVEN BE POSSIBLE! The wedding is not all about you, the bride. It’s not all about the color pattern. Just because the man (usually) does not care what kind of plates he eats on for the rest of his life, does not mean the wedding is not about him. The man is typically the one who made this day possible, he is usually the one who proposed, if it were not for the man, then bitch – YOU WOULD NEVER BE GETTING MARRIED TO ANYONE! YOU WOULD DIE ALONE! Let that sink in for a minute.

Next time you are thinking of a wedding, thank the damn groom. He made that shit possible. Yes, typically, the bride is the one who was fantasizing about it since she was little. However, the groom made it a reality. He is a fucking superhero as far as I’m concerned.

This goes for same-sex marriage too. I support it. I have homosexual family, and back when I had friends, at least 85% of them were gay too. They are just nice people who deserve the support, but I’ll go into that in a different post.

Women, no offense was intended in this post. I have been, however, offended as a man recently hearing that the wedding is all about the lady in the gorgeous white dress. It’s about the two people getting married and the love they share. My advice, make the wedding about the TWO of you. Or my personal advice, use that money, instead, to take a long vacation and don’t sign the dotted line. Just stay in love and use your heads. Don’t do anything stupid that you know the other person wouldn’t like (Act married, but don’t get married).